Transition To Your Second Act and A Happier You

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I read many books each year. Most books give me a point or two on how to transition and improve, which I consider an excellent ROI for a 6 – 8-hour commitment. But I would consider very few books so life-changing that I would devote a blog or a podcast to them alone. 

One such book, The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg, is one I read ten years ago. As documented in my previous blog, The Return of Elvis: Seven Habits for Wellness, this book launched my wellness journey based on its insights into the habit cycle.   However, today’s blog is about a book I just read, which I hope will be as life-changing as Duhigg’s book was for me. The book is called From Strength to Strength: Finding Success, Happiness, and Deep Purpose in the Second Half of Life by Arthur C. Brooks.

The book contains insights; I need to write another book or at least a fifty-page summary to cover them all! So, I will stick to the five most important for me and briefly discuss how I apply them.

Fluid vs. Crystalized Intelligence. 

Citing Raymond Cattel’s work, Brooks discusses the two types of intelligence people have during their lifetimes. The first is fluid intelligence, “which Catrell defined as the ability to reason, think flexibly, and solve novel problems.”[i]  This type of intelligence tends to drive most innovation and begins to dissipate in most people in their thirties or early forties.  Examples are technology founders who tend to make their most significant innovations during their youth.  Another example is Albert Einstein and other Nobel Prize winners whose most extraordinary findings are in their youth.

 But for those of us past forty, don’t worry.  Fluid intelligence gives way to crystallized intelligence, “defined as the ability to use a stock of knowledge in the past.”[ii]   This type of intelligence grows in most of us for the rest of our lives.  I love Brooks’s metaphor in the book of an extensive library.  Finding the right book or quote to resolve a problem may take some time, but it is tucked away somewhere in the collected experience that we call wisdom.

People Need to Transition to Their Second Act.

The upshot of the two types of intelligence curves is that you should transition to a new direction in life earlier than most people do.  Many people whose fluid intelligence is waning stay in a role that values their fluid intelligence instead of switching to one that favors their ascending crystallized intelligence or wisdom. 

People stay on too long trying to recapture their glory days.  An example we can all understand is the Olympic athlete or football player (other than Tom Brady) who tries to stay on for one last season when they should have switched to coaching to impart their knowledge to another.  While few of us are athletes, most middle-aged people have experienced some decline in productivity in our initial field.  Hence, the term mid-life crisis.

Brooks uses the example of J.S. Bach, who executed the transition to his second act well.  J.S. Bach was a musical innovator, but when the style of music changed,  he transitioned to teacher and supporter of his children’s careers.  He is now remembered for the composition The Art of Fugue, which he wrote during his second act when others seemingly surpassed him.  Like J.S. Bach, we would be better served and happier by pursuing activities such as coaching and teaching that use crystallized intelligence.  Those who jump to their “second curve “earlier have happier and more rewarding lives.

Why Do We Wait to Transition? Success Addiction.

So why do people take so long to transition to their second act and ride the curve of crystalized knowledge to happiness and achievement of a different kind?  Brooks points out in his third chapter that success addiction causes us to hang on even when we are missing a step.  He illustrates the problem in the following paragraph related to one of his friends.

“We know in our hearts that the objectification of others is wrong and immoral. But it is easy to forget that we can do it to ourselves as well. My financier friend had objectified herself to be special, with a self-definition that revolved around work, achievement, worldly rewards, and pride. Even though that object was slowly eroding, she was too attached to her worldly success to make [iii]the changes that could now bring her happiness.”[iv]

I can relate to Brooks’s friend.  I have foregone vacations, time with family, and cultivating friends because I did not want my work colleagues to think I was slacking.  Also, our literature is rife with examples of people who pursued work success over family and friends.  The most poignant example is Willie Loman in The Death of a Salesman,  who committed suicide after losing his job when he continued his work as a traveling salesman.  He could not jump to his second curve.

Chip Away to A New You.

So, how do you get off the success wheel and transition to the next curve?  The best way is not to jump all at once but start chipping away at your first act and sculpting your second act.  Brooks gives good advice in this area in his book.

 One is to focus on your core work and forego taking on tasks that may get you some material success but take you away from family and friends.  A further recommendation is to cultivate your Aspen Grove.  Each Aspen tree is large but has a very shallow individual root system.  Instead, an Aspen Grove “is the largest living organism in the world” since the roots of individual trees in the grove are interconnected.  Brooks explains this metaphor:

“We may look solitary, but we form a vast root system of families, friends, communities, nations, and indeed the entire world. The inevitable changes in my life-and yours aren’t a tragedy to regret. They are just changes to one interconnected member of the human family-one shoot from the root system. The secret to bearing my decline-no, enjoying it-is to be more conscious of the roots linking me to others.         If I am connected to others, in love, my increase will be more than offset by the increase to others…”[v]

I followed this advice before reading the book.  I began chipping away at the old me and moved on to my second curve.  At the time, I was working at my full-time job, but I knew I had to start making the shift to my second act. So, like any good blogger, I made an acronym for my second act.   The abbreviation CRAFT represents my aspirations as a coach, religious, author, friend, and teacher.  I am happy to say I am well on the way to all pursuits. 

I started coaching my team more in my old role.  Now, in retirement, I have started a coaching business.  I also maintained a daily spiritual practice and became involved in several religious ministries.  I began two blogs and am now working on a non-fiction and poetry book.  I have become more intentional about cultivating friendships.  Lastly, I am teaching math and religion classes.  These activities cannot replace my former work regarding material success, but they more than makeup for it in terms of happiness, purpose, and success. 

What Does The New You Look Like?

Brooks closes with seven words that he strives to follow in his second curve:

Use things.

Love people.

Worship the Divine.[vi]

These words ring true to me.  As you get closer to the end, things should have a declining grip on your life.  I will not regret getting the latest gadget, but I will regret if I do not reconcile with a friend or tell your family that you love them.  Also, my Divine may differ from yours, but those who look beyond themselves have more happiness and peace.   

I want to end with a poem that came to me while meditating on my first act and contemplating the second.  As we move to our second season, we should focus on the goodness of this world and forego the great. 

Be good, not great,

For the time is late,

And we have but a day,

To show the way!

Seek kindness, not power,

Make Love a Tower,

Your heart the leaven,

To seek out heaven.

Take time, don’t wait,

For eternity is our fate,

If we do what is asked,

And complete our task.

Seek peace, not fame,

As your temptations you tame,

For the time is late!

Be good, not great.

[i] Brooks, Arthur C. (2022). From Strength to Strength: Finding Success, Happiness, and Deep Purpose in the Second Half of Life (1st Edition). New York: Portfolio/Penguin. p. 26.

[ii] Brooks, Arthur C. (2022). From Strength to Strength: Finding Success, Happiness, and Deep Purpose in the Second Half of Life (1st Edition). New York: Portfolio/Penguin. p. 27

 

[iv] Brooks, Arthur C. (2022). From Strength to Strength: Finding Success, Happiness, and Deep Purpose in the Second Half of Life (1st Edition). New York: Portfolio/Penguin. p. 45

[v] Brooks, Arthur C. (2022). From Strength to Strength: Finding Success, Happiness, and Deep Purpose in the Second Half of Life (1st Edition). New York: Portfolio/Penguin. p. 113

[vi] Brooks, Arthur C. (2022). From Strength to Strength: Finding Success, Happiness, and Deep Purpose in the Second Half of Life (1st Edition). New York: Portfolio/Penguin. p. 215

Six Amazing Tracking Tips for Weightloss and Wellness

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Last week’s blog was a little out there even for me.  I enjoyed tying the ideas and lives of Winston Churchill and David Bowie about purposeful change together.  If you have not already, you should listen, even to hear me imitate the musical chameleon, Bowie.  But for today’s podcast, I decided to reel it back into a topic a little less out there, a little more meat and potatoes!   That is the importance of tracking your wellness journey, whether it be the meat and potatoes you consume, the steps you walk, or those moments of serendipity that bring you happiness each day!

Some in the wellness industry give tracking a bad name. Some firms even want you to buy prepackaged foods, mixes, and pills so you can avoid what they consider the mundane practice of tracking. Buy our food, lose weight, and leave the monitoring to us! Do our specific exercise routine and watch your muscles grow and your stomach shrink. Better yet, take this pill or shot, and you don’t have to exercise or watch what you eat. 

Let me debunk these claims of the wellness industry.   First and foremost, people like to choose their food and want variety. You should feel liberated in your food choices, not restricted.  Also, what you gain in convenience from prepacked food, you lose in knowing how to eat nutritionally for your body type.  Lastly, when you run out of money for the next shot or order of prepacked food, you have no habits to fall back on and gain weight.  Trust me.  I am the guy who tried every prepackaged diet and exercise routine until I went old-school and decided to take matters into my own hands.

Today, I track the food I eat, my daily exercise routines, and even the beneficial habits I want to adopt and the bad habits I want to limit. It may seem like a lot of work, but trust me, it’s worth it.  Like a science experiment, you must track all variables in your wellness journey. And just like in business, you can only improve what you track. This is not just a personal journey but a proven method that I urge you to consider for your wellness journey.  

The human body is one of the most complicated organisms on the planet.  New things are discovered daily despite being the most studied topic since the existence of science.  Also, no two people are exactly alike.  What works for one person may not work for you.  Therefore, owning your wellness and tracking your habits and the outcomes they produce is essential. 

For ten years, I have tracked my activity, food intake, habits, mindfulness, and sense of well-being. The result? I lost half my body weight, eliminated sleep apnea, improved my disposition, and became more fit.    Here are some recommendations for those of you initiating a tracking habit.

1.  Track everything you eat or drink. 

The best way to lose weight is to track what you eat.  You will better understand portion control and the trigger foods you need to avoid by consciously tracking your food intake.  You use this and weekly weight tracking to determine what works and what foods to avoid.  That way, you can focus on what works rather than trying everything that doesn’t! 

2. Track before you attack. 

The first rule is always to figure out what you will have before departing.  Most restaurants now post nutritional values on menus on their website.  Read the menu, pick your menu items, and record the calories before departing.  Like a good soldier, never eat without a good plan of attack. This preparation gives you a sense of control and confidence in your choices.

3. Indulge but count.  

You can indulge a bit on vacation or a celebration.  While on Vacation, I shared a few desserts with my wife for the first time in a long time.  But I also carefully tracked everything I ate to know I was in striking distance for the week.  By monitoring and not attacking the buffet line, I could enjoy some of the colonial recipes and comfort foods in Virginia on a recent vacation in a controlled manner.  I was able to indulge and avoid the bulge!

4.  Gamification.

Tracking your food, habits, and activities can become mundane, so make a game of it.  I use the Fitbit application and the WW application to track food activity.  In the WW application, I try to get a blue dot award (staying in a recommended point zone) five days a week.  By striving for the Blue Dot, I had fun and learned different approaches to balance activity and food intake.  Likewise, I have step contests with my friends on the Fitbit application and engage in friendly banter and competition.

5. Listen to Your Body and Record Your Well-Being. 

Your body knows what it wants.  That is the reason too many hamburgers and fries cause you to indigestion.    Feed your body with the good stuff.  Choose vegetables and fruit over candy and sugar.  Remember, just like listening to someone, you must listen to your body closely to understand what it says.  Then, record your well-being and compare it to your activity, habits, and food intake. You may think your body is saying I need sleep when, in reality, your body is saying I need to exercise and get energy, or I am dehydrated and need water. 

6.  Three Applications that Help You Track.  

Here are three applications that have helped me track.

WW application.   I am amazed at this application and consider it one of the best mobile applications I have ever used.  This is coming from a guy who built applications for a living.  The best feature is its tracking application, which allows you to scan food bar codes and track the WW points that you use.  It also has a Connect feature that will enable you to connect to other people on the Weight Watchers journey.  In addition, it has a feature that allows you to reach a Weight Watcher employee any time of the day through instant messaging to answer questions and provide inspiration.  This feature once prevented me from eating a seemingly healthy wrap, which was half my allotted food intake!  This application has a monthly subscription, but it is worth it if you want to lose weight.  My Fitness Pal is an alternative free application, but I like WW’s features.

Fitbit is a fantastic application and tool. I use it daily to track my exercise, measure my heart rate and sleep, and participate in competitions with my friends. I no longer have a watch; instead, I wear my Fitbit as a watch. It also has a feature to track the number of glasses of water I drink daily, another critical element of weight loss. One of my most prized possessions from Fitbit is the 100,000-step Olympian Sandal for walking 50 miles daily. 

Happyfeed is a simple but powerful application! Each day, it reminds you to log three things you are happy about. This helps you think of the good stuff and not get depressed. The app also has a feature that allows you to add pictures and look at history.

Streaks allows you to set repeating habits and track them daily. Establishing habits and tracking them is vital in achieving goals related to weight loss and other areas. Some of my habits that help with weight loss are journaling for 15 minutes daily, writing a blog weekly, and praying daily.

In closing, you need to track to keep on track and change well.  You can only change what you measure, and by tracking, you better know what habits you need to change.

How to Stay Healthy in the City That Never Sleeps

Don Grier

I just got back from the city that never sleeps last week.   My wife and I had a great time with our son and his wife, and we got a lot of exercise.  We walked at least 12,000 steps each day.  New York could also be called the city where everyone walks. 

When I weighed in on the day I got back, I was half expecting to have dropped a few pounds. However, I was shocked that I had gained 5 lbs. in 5 days. How did that happen? I ate a little more, but not to excess. I did not eat pizza, steaks, or more than a beer a day. The extra exercise should have countered it. 

After reviewing my Fitbit data while trying to soothe my aching muscles, I identified the twin culprits.    I should have known since both problems have waylaid my wellness journey in the past.  The person who barely sleeps and seldom stretches went to the city that never sleeps and always walks! 

Too little sleep and insufficient stretching have been the two most significant negative factors in my health, including during my weight loss journey when I lost 170 pounds. Here are just a few anecdotes to prove my point. If you want to read more about my wellness journey, read our blog page. You can also listen to our Change Well Podcast.

1. Impact of Sleep Apnea on Health. 

I had undiagnosed sleep apnea as I was heading to my peak weight.  Sleep apnea is a severe sleep disorder in which breathing repeatedly starts and stops.  I thought I was tired from too much work, but I was not getting a restful sleep.  I also was impacting the sleep of others, as my kids noted (and recorded) on a vacation trip.

I went to a sleep study, where they confirmed sleep apnea and prescribed a C-PAP. As you see below, a C-PAP is a medical device that forces air through a mask to open up your airways. Even though I looked like something out of my Son-In-Law’s Steampunk movies, I wore it every night for a year until I rectified the condition.  The impact of getting more sleep was immediate and positive. In one month, without changing other habits, I lost twenty pounds.

Sleep apnea causes several conditions that lead to weight gain. The first one is metabolic syndrome, which includes high blood pressure, abnormal cholesterol levels, high blood sugar, and an increased waist circumference and is linked to a higher risk of heart disease.  I had all of these, including yet-to-be-diagnosed with heart disease. Another symptom is daytime drowsiness and irritability, which makes it harder to exercise and raises the level of cortisol. 

I could go on discussing how lack of sleep wreaks havoc on the hormones that control appetite, but the bottom line is that sleep apnea and lack of sleep must be tackled head-on. I got so much benefit out of my C-PAP that I took it with me on all my business trips. It was a pain lugging it around in airports and finding distilled water late at night once arriving (the machine requires it), but that ugly mask in an equally non-stylish grey case saved my life and my health.  And after a year of using it and losing a great deal of weight in part because of it, my sleep apnea was resolved.

C-PAP Machine

2.  Anxiety and sleep deprivation. 

Sleep apnea is not the only thing that detracts from a good day’s rest.  Anxiety and worry can cut into your sleep time and can cause weight gain and lack of productivity.  I still struggle with getting enough sleep, and more often than not, it is due to the worst casting of upcoming events or replaying negative things from the day before. 

The impact of less than seven hours of sleep due to anxiety is harmful to health.   I have now tracked my eating and health habits for ten years in Fitbit and the WW applications, and the number one factor correlating to a weekly weight gain, in my case, is not getting enough good sleep.  I have maintained my weight through a momentary eating binge or a weekend on the couch, but if I have had a bad week of sleep, I will gain.  Everyone is a bit different, but that is the case with me. 

3.  The Benefits of Stretching.

Now, let us switch to my other nemesis: stretching. Some people love to stretch; I hate it! However, after tweaking my back numerous times and having all the flexibility of the Tin Man in The Wizard of Oz, I know I need to do it.

The health benefits of stretching are well-documented.  One of the most significant benefits is that it helps prevent injury.  I know this firsthand from the times I have been laid up in bed due to a back spasm or my legs locking up on me.  However, these problems have significantly reduced since I started my daily stretching habit.

Another benefit of stretching is reducing anxiety. Deep breathing practices combined with stretching have been shown to reduce stress and stress eating. You do not need to be a Yogi to benefit from stretching, deep breathing, and meditation. As for me, I stretch in a pool while silently praying. The pool’s buoyancy helps me with my tight muscles and ability to do stretches that require balance, like a hamstring stretch.

Now that we have examined the adverse effects of not sleeping and stretching and the positive benefits of doing so, let’s return to my recent trip to New York.  NYC is called the city that never sleeps for a good reason.  If you are anywhere in the city, you must deal with street noise at all night hours (even eight floors up as we were) and light pollution (in our case, we are directly across from the Empire State Building).  Even though I wore a sleep mask and earplugs provided by the hotel, I could not sleep well.  Also, anxiety from having to make a big decision and meeting new people for the first time seriously curtailed my sleep – an average of less than 4 hours of sleep for the time I was there. 

Next, let’s look at my failure to stretch.  Despite walking the whole High Line, Chelsea Market, and most of Brooklyn, I did not do as much as a calf stretch.  This contrasts with my wife, who had scheduled a robotic massage from Aescape.  If you are interested in seeing what a robotic massage is, I have included a link to a video from Aescape, a company mentioned on The Late Show.  The result of my lack of stretching and my wife’s forethought in scheduling a massage is I tweaked my back on the return flight, setting me back a few days while she was back at it the day we returned to working at our Apiary.

4. How to Sleep and Stretch Better

My previous experiences and a recent trip to  New York indicate the importance of sleep and stretching on health.  Here are four practices to help you sleep and stretch more.

1.  Establish a relaxing pre-sleep ritual. To sleep better, you need to quiet your mind before going to bed.  Read a book.  Listen to quiet music. Pray or meditate.  And most importantly, turn off the TV and your phone.

2.  Limit noise and light pollution. This may not be possible in cities like NYC, but try your best with blackout curtains, earplugs, and sleep masks.  Also, if you can, turn off your Wi-Fi.  I have found that turning off the router at night helps with sleep.

3.  Turn on white noise or natural sounds.  I have found that listening to the ocean or rain sounds helps me sleep.  Several manufacturers make devices that play soothing sounds for sleep

4.  Stretch to reduce anxiety and encourage sleep.  Keep up your daily stretching habit when on vacation to relieve muscle tightness and stress.  No matter the small size of a hotel room in NYC, you can still find room to do a calf stretch.  Better yet, have the forethought to schedule a massage like my wife.

I will close in my usual manner with a song.  I may not be Frank Sinatra, but I started spreading the news about the importance of sleep and stretching in NYC and worldwide.

Start spreading the news, you need it today,
You must sleep and stretch in New York, New York.
These ragged boat shoes have walked all day.
Right to the very heart of it in old New York.

I want to sleep in the City that never sleeps,
And find I am rested well; top of the heap.
My muscle fatigue is melting away,
I got a robotic massage in old New York.

If you can sleep and stretch there, you can do it anywhere.
It’s up to you, New York, New York.

The Importance of Civility, Kindness, and Active Listening on Wellness

Don Grier

Today, I will hit a recurring theme on the Change Well blog – the importance of civility, kindness, and active listening on wellness. I don’t want to sound too hyperbolic, but I believe these traits are critical to the soul of this great nation.   The only way to continue to grow is to listen with an open mind to the things you don’t know about yourself and others.  It would be best if you seized on the commonalities to convince yourself to do so and not discount what someone different says, discern the reasons for the differences, and diplomatically discuss.  Is this naïve?  Maybe.  Is it always doable?  No.  But you have to try to improve your wellness and that of others.

I have to admit I have not always been diplomatic in my discussions. At times, my colleagues feared discussing certain topics with me because they knew they would raise my ire.    My friends and foes had a name for it.   Instead of The Wrath of Kahn (of Star Trek fame), they called it The Wrath of Don.  But I learned as I got older that yelling and being obstinate gets you nothing but high blood pressure, coursing cortisol through your veins, and closed minds toward you and your ideas. This realization led me on a journey of personal growth and transformation, inspiring me to change my approach to disagreements.

How do you disagree without being disagreeable and listen without losing yourself and your moral rudder? Sometimes, you must stand your ground, but knowing when and how is critical. It is not a science but an art and is the essence of being human.   To understand how to be diplomatic when you disagree, let’s look at real-life examples of people who model this behavior and the lessons they taught.

1 Look for commonalities.   

One of the best examples of two people who rarely agreed but were good friends and respected each other’s intellect was Justice Scalia and Justice Ginsberg.  They found a shared love for opera, cooking, and growing up in New York, which brought them together.  They both deeply loved the Constitution, even though it was from different viewpoints.  Scalia was conservative to the bone and was the master of dissent, while Justice Ginsberg anchored the liberal side of the court.  They often vacationed together based on their mutual shared interests. 

However, in the court, they rarely saw eye to eye but had enough respect for the other to share their dissent, often to improve the argument of the other.   Justice Scalia once said of Justice Ginsburg in a 2013 interview:  “She has done more to shape the law in this field than any other justice on this court,”  Later, he said, “She will take a lawyer who is making a ridiculous argument and just shake him like a dog with a bone.”   Ginsberg had no less respect for Scalia.  Upon hearing of his death, she said of Justice Scalia, drawing from their shared love of Opera:  “Toward the end of the opera Scalia/Ginsburg, tenor Scalia and soprano Ginsburg sing a duet: “We are different, we are one,” different in our interpretation of written texts, one in our reverence for the Constitution and the institution we serve. From our years together at the D.C. Circuit, we were best buddies. We disagreed occasionally, but when I wrote for the Court and received a Scalia dissent, the opinion ultimately released was notably better than my initial circulation.

When you draw on commonalities and listen to others with respect, you will inevitably strengthen your position and may find a way to find common ground.  And if you don’t find common ground, the differences will be made clear without rancor or vitriol.

2.  You can argue but should never quarrel. 

One of my favorite authors is GK Chesterton.  The king of paradoxes and the champion of orthodoxy.  He wrote in his autobiography concerning debates with his brother that ‘they often argued, but never quarreled.’  By this, he meant he debated his point of disagreement on what he considered fact, but never in animosity or hostility.  Indeed, Chesterton often argued with those he differed with (Huxley, Wells, and others) but on ideals, not graciously, attacking the idea and not the person.  He also took the time to understand the arguments of his opponents thoroughly and always tried to gain some common ground with an opponent. In this way, he reminded me of my professor, Congresswoman Barbara Jordan, whose rules of civility I follow today and discussed previously. This emphasis on respect in disagreement is crucial for maintaining healthy relationships and fostering understanding. Read the previous blog here

1. Know the other side’s view at least as well as they do

2. Seek first commonalities and build on them to establish a relationship

3. Then and only then, civilly and with respect, explain any differing viewpoints

Follow these rules and always seek to argue but not quarrel with those you disagree with. When you quarrel on emotion instead of arguing from a reasoned viewpoint, you cut off any path to finding common ground.

3.  You Have to Stand for Something, or You Will Fall for Anything. 

This last point sounds paradoxical in comparison to the other two points.  But there is a point when you must stand your ground and agree to disagree.  As I said earlier, knowing when to stand your ground is an art, not a science.  

Here is a simple, straightforward example.  You have a friend who cannot break free from addiction.  They argue with you to look the other way again, and they can turn it around. In this case, you need to stand your ground and not enable them because it will hurt you and them. 

But most cases are not this clear-cut. I do not have a perfect prescription for when to stop discussing and make a decision, but I have an imperfect one. Here are the three questions to consider when making a decision to disagree and go a different way.

1.  Have I, with an open ear, actively listened to the opposite view?  In answering this question, you must honestly consider if you turned a tin ear to the other person’s point of view and only listened to the counterarguments in your heart.

2.  Now that I understand the point of view, are other supporting factors not yet considered?  In other words, have I taken the time to consider the other’s argument further beyond their talking points?  Sometimes, you may have new insights that have appeared during the discussion.

3. Is the differences between us something worth fighting for?  If I agree with the person, even if not the best approach, does it cause harm to me or others, now and in the future?  This question is the most difficult of the three. 

To close, being civil and kind while actively listening is not easy, but it is necessary if we are seeking a way to better ourselves and this country. I hope this discussion, in light of recent events, such as the attempted shooting of a President and the rancor on both sides, helps you discern the viewpoint of others. I want to leave you with a poem I wrote two years ago on July 4th. 

I love this country,
more and more,
From the Rockies’ peak,
To Grand Canyon’s floor!

I love this country,
Yes, it’s true!
Whether in a Red state,
Or one that’s Blue.

Watch West Side Story,
Or Hamilton.
Let’s pull together,
And act as one.

March the streets,
Have your say,
But let’s come together,
At the end of the day,

And love this country!
Love it, true,
And wave it proudly,
The Red, White and Blue.